If you listen to the news or skim through the
Internet you get a lot of information. The difficulty is that the information
is in pieces. It is in shards that make little sense by themselves but you can
take a bunch of those shards and arrange them into a pattern that makes sense.
These patterns are called stories. As we grow up these stories become the
filters through which we understand the world around us.
When I was a youngster I loved science fiction
(I still do) and one of my favorite authors was Robert Heinlein. I imagined
myself traveling through space, going on heroic adventures, and battling
villains. I wanted to live those science fiction stories and did what I could
to make those stories real. I studied astronomy and took as many science
courses as I could, in which I usually excelled. In high school and even early
in college I focused on becoming a military pilot because in those days that
was the only way one could become an astronaut and that was the way I could
live out the story that had been shaped by my love of science fiction. The
story has changed over the years as other influences have further shaped my
life story. Thomas Merton was a big influence, as were Charles de Foucauld and
Theresa of Avila. These influences moved my life story in the direction of
Catholic spirituality and ministry. That story continues to live, evolve and
helps me to make sense of the world even today.
Our stories do not occur in a vacuum. All of the
people around us have their own life stories. Those stories are similar to ours
because they are shaped by the same environment and influences that shape our
stories. Our stories are influenced by our culture as well. Our cultural
stories tie us to long established traditions within our community or ethnic
group. Our cultural stories capture the values and attitudes that are the
foundation of the community. These stories usually provide the limits and
expectations that show up in our individual life stories.
These cultural stories change over time, as the
culture changes. During the 19th century in the United States, a common
cultural story dealt with the theme of heading west and being a pioneer. A
theme of the early 20th century was that with hard work one could be a success.
One could go from rags to riches. In the late 20th century the theme seemed to
shift to technology as the savior of humanity.
Our stories have a profound impact on our
actions. For example, a common story about marriage nowadays is that everyone
has a right to be happy with a soulmate. Related to this is the idea that
divorce and remarriage are valid options if one feels that they are not happy
in a particular marital relationship or they encounter their soulmate and it
isn’t their current spouse. After working on several marriage tribunals over
the past thirty years, I’m familiar with this story. It keeps popping up,
almost daily. It is the justification for divorce that keeps being offered in
almost every annulment petition I see.
The problem with this story is that it is
contrary to the Church’s basic understanding of marriage, as well as being
based on an inadequate understanding of marriage from even a psychological
perspective. According to the Church marriage is a permanent commitment,
assuming that one can abandon a marriage because one is not happy with the
relationship is not a Catholic understanding of the sacrament. Indeed, the
courtship has the purpose of allowing the couple to get to know one another
well enough to make a lifetime commitment. In addition, psychological studies
have shown that marital relationships go through cycles and there are times
when the relationship is strained and the parties may not be happy with one
another. However, as these difficult times are worked through, the couple may
experience a break through and find a deeper and richer marital relationship.
They need to work through these difficulties and not abandon the relationship
when the first difficulties occur.
No story is perfect and at times our stories
come into conflict. If you follow the political debates there is a narrative
that the world is changing too much and sliding into chaos. We are loosing
traditional family structures, the demographics of the country are changing and
dominant ethnic groups (European descent) are rapidly becoming a minority.
There is nostalgia for a bygone era.
There is an opposing story that agrees that the
world is changing but in the process it is becoming better. Technology is
changing our lives for the better with new medical resources, and computers
that can do tasks once thought impossible. If society is changing it is
bringing greater inclusiveness, opportunity for all and a more realistic sense
of being part of a world community.
Both stories have strengths and weaknesses. The
first story warns people not to accept every change as good, some are not. It
also embraces the unborn as needing protection. These two elements can be seen
as strength. However, there is a tendency to reject people that are from
different ethnic groups, or who have values different from ours. This is
related to a fear of being culturally and politically overwhelmed by others.
These elements are weaknesses, at least from the perspective of Catholic Social
Teaching.
The strength of the second story is its openness
to healthy technological change. For example, the changes in computers and
communication in the past few decades has brought communities throughout the
world much closer. It creates greater transparency, whether leaders (in politics,
business and even the Church) want it or not. There also seems to be a greater
openness to people that are different from us. The weakness of this story is
its tendency to reduce humans to little more than machines. Again, abortion is
generally accepted in this story, with little sense of the baby as a human
being.
These stories are influential. They were major
factors in the 2016 elections and will probably be similarly important in the
2020 election cycle.
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